What's #TacoTuesdayTalks all about? Well, it actually started a couple of years ago when I aimed to get coffee with old friends at least once a week. It's inspired by Dunbar's number, which found that humans on average have about 150 "casual friends" and 50 "close friends."
If you're like me, it's truer that you have maybe 5-15 friends that you hang out with regularly, and everyone else is a friend/acquaintance/former colleague that you see at functions — some you might've even been close with at one point — but for the most part you haven't seen many of them in person in years.
Unless you make time to talk pretty regularly — *liking* and commenting on their social media posts doesn't count — it's hard to call someone a "close" friend if you haven't even hung out in years.
So getting a coffee once a week was my aim to rectify that. One person a week equals 52 people a year. And that's closer to Dunbar's number of "close" friends. It went really well for a while, but it died down — as things do. Plus, grabbing a coffee is sometimes understood as a "quick" thing that you do on the way to another thing.
Why does this work better than "Let's grab a coffee"?
- It's an instant time commitment. Tacos take more time to prepare than coffees.
- It's a finger food, meaning you're connected to the food and by extension: the moment.
- This also prevents you from instinctively grabbing your cell phone with your messy taco hands ;)
- Who doesn't like tacos?!
I've put the invite on Facebook and Twitter, to anyone and everyone on my friend list. And as of this writing, it looks like more than a year's worth of #TacoTuesdayTalks will need to be scheduled! I'm incredibly humbled by the people that have replied. Friends from middle school, university, people that I've never hung out with one-on-one before, and of course, even the friends that I already hang out with regularly.
If you think this is a good idea, feel free to take it and run with it! Social media is amazing for staying connected. But there's no replacement for connecting with someone in real life.
Not Tacos. Not Tuesday. Talks? Yes.— Eric Mark Do (@EricMarkDo) December 29, 2017
Good spontaneous times with IG homies I'm honoured to call my really good friends. We've had some great adventures so far. And there'll be more to come! #TacoTuesdayTalks @TheRobOng @jayeffex_ pic.twitter.com/RylDmavTMV
#TacoTuesdayTalks with actual tacos! Always great catching up with the homegirl @jengdang, who's launching a new biz soon so stay tuned!— Eric Mark Do (@EricMarkDo) January 13, 2018
Fun fact: we met while playing Facebook Poker 😂 pic.twitter.com/cPft5v2G1M
From coworkers to actual friends 😎 Was awesome catching up with Steph and @DerekHeraldo! With actual tacos! #TacoTuesdayTalks— Eric Mark Do (@EricMarkDo) January 19, 2018
(Random shoutout to @Hobbie_Hobson: join us next time!) pic.twitter.com/JROpsE4iMY
Great finally catching up with @ramna_s, a superstar in the CBC Toronto newsroom! #TacoTuesdayTalks— Eric Mark Do (@EricMarkDo) February 1, 2018
(And shout-out us for literally being the first customers at @WilburMexicana today 😂) pic.twitter.com/6emPOOdlhh
A long overdue #TacoTuesdayTalks + catch-up with the amazing @horchatania, who has some VERY cool projects in the works! Stay tuned 🙌— Eric Mark Do (@EricMarkDo) March 6, 2018
(P.S. That shot glass is deceiving, it was literally just a lime holder 😂) pic.twitter.com/0MQgRgNXQu
Ate tacos while watching the taco episode of @uglydelicious!— Eric Mark Do (@EricMarkDo) March 18, 2018
Shoutout to @artipatel for being an amazing host!
Also shoutout to @JessicaVomiero and @KamilKaramali, who discovered a new dance 😂🌮 #TacoTuesdayTalks #LiveLaughLake pic.twitter.com/d3mHzAwTcC
#TacoTuesdayTalks are back!— Eric Mark Do (@EricMarkDo) June 13, 2018
Caught up with the amazing @dianaduo and @MatthewOMara! Next time, it won't be a 3 year gap between hangouts lol.
Also featuring TTT alumni (and now roommate!) @TrinhTheresaDo! Let the good times roll 😎 pic.twitter.com/6SOpwH59H4