What's #TacoTuesdayTalks all about? Well, it actually started a couple of years ago when I aimed to get coffee with old friends at least once a week. It's inspired by Dunbar's number, which found that humans on average have about 150 "casual friends" and 50 "close friends."
If you're like me, it's truer that you have maybe 5-15 friends that you hang out with regularly, and everyone else is a friend/acquaintance/former colleague that you see at functions — some you might've even been close with at one point — but for the most part you haven't seen many of them in person in years.
Unless you make time to talk pretty regularly — *liking* and commenting on their social media posts doesn't count — it's hard to call someone a "close" friend if you haven't even hung out in years.
So getting a coffee once a week was my aim to rectify that. One person a week equals 52 people a year. And that's closer to Dunbar's number of "close" friends. It went really well for a while, but it died down — as things do. Plus, grabbing a coffee is sometimes understood as a "quick" thing that you do on the way to another thing.
Why does this work better than "Let's grab a coffee"?
- It's an instant time commitment. Tacos take more time to prepare than coffees.
- It's a finger food, meaning you're connected to the food and by extension: the moment.
- This also prevents you from instinctively grabbing your cell phone with your messy taco hands ;)
- Who doesn't like tacos?!
I've put the invite on Facebook and Twitter, to anyone and everyone on my friend list. And as of this writing, it looks like more than a year's worth of #TacoTuesdayTalks will need to be scheduled! I'm incredibly humbled by the people that have replied. Friends from middle school, university, people that I've never hung out with one-on-one before, and of course, even the friends that I already hang out with regularly.
If you think this is a good idea, feel free to take it and run with it! Social media is amazing for staying connected. But there's no replacement for connecting with someone in real life.